Here’s a great interview with Robert Mack, a celebrity life coach, bestselling author of “Happiness from teh Inside Out: The Art and Science of Fulfilmment,” and one of the most coveted, sought-after guest speakers on happiness and success.
1. Rob, you’re an expert in the field of positive psychology and “living a better life,” what does that actually mean, and how did you get started?
6. What would you say are the most common questions people often ask you when they bring you on to be their “life coach?”As a life coach, questions from people run the gamut. The most popular questions often revolve around relationships – romantic, platonic, and familial ones – and questions around managing time and money. People often ask me how they can stay more motivated. So many people seem to be getting more done with less time and money. So questions around how to better manage their time and money are always popular.And, as I mentioned, people always seem to be looking for love, too. I get lots of questions around improving or changing relationships.At the end of the day, however, all of the questions – no matter how different they seem – are really about how to live a happier life. It’s interesting how many different approaches people take to living a happier life. Happiness means different things to different people and at different times in our lives. To all people, however, happiness means feeling better and more fulfilled in all areas of life.
7. If you had three things to tell my readers (many of whom are Mom’s) what would you tell them?
1. Make happiness your top priority and number one goal in your life. If you want to be successful (and who doesn’t want to be successful!), know that the most successful people in the world – the people that make $750k more over their lifetime, that live 6-7 years longer, that have better relationships, that experience less job burnout, that get better performance reviews at work, that require few doctor visits, and that generally experience more success in all areas of their life – are happy before they become successful, not just after they are successful. In other words, happiness isn’t the only success; happiness also leads to success. So make happiness the ultimate currency in your life.
2. Learn as much as you can about happiness. The first step to being happier is knowing what happiness is, does, and means to you. One of the things you’ll find is that the happiest people are the most charitable (they give the most blood and money), the most generous, and the kindest people in the world. Contrary to popular opinion, science has found that the happiest people are the most unselfish people, too. So, remember this: your happiness is your gift to the world! You can only give what you have so take care of yourself and your happiness and everything that you touch will become happier for it, too. What’s more, positive emotion makes us more creative, productive, and efficient. So the better you feel, the better and clearer you’ll think and act. As counterintuitive as it seems, being happy – despite the circumstances and conditions of your life – will save you time and money.
3. Begin TODAY to take positive steps toward creating a happier life. Don’t get so caught up in creating a successful and happy life that you forget that it’s the happy or successful moments, when strung together, that make for a successful and happy life. So get out there and participate in life, pursue your dreams, try something new, and just plain have more fun with everything and everyone! What can you do today to have more fun? What plans can you make? What new things might you try?
Finally, one of the great things that Carnival is doing for 2011 is encouraging folks to visit their Facebook page and write down what their goals are for the year – what’s on their “Life list” and what they’d like to try for the first time. They’re going to compile all of those firsts into one big list, and throughout the year they’re going to be fulfilling some randomly for various fans. They’re also going to be giving away one cruise a month, so definitely worth checking it out.